How do I find myself when I don't even remember when I disappeared?

I came across a post where a therapist had asked 10 questions to help answer this.

1. What's the first thing about myself I remember giving up to keep the peace?
My opinion. My preference. 

2. Who was the first person I edited myself for?
My father.

3. What did I love as a kid that I have stopped letting myself love?
Singing.

4. What part of me shows up when I'm around people who feel safe?
My smart mouth.

5. When did I decide who I actually was wasn't enough?
When my brothers told me I had no friends and I started to believe them.

6. What parts of me do people say they miss that I haven't seen in years?
No one has ever said they miss any parts of me.

7. What am I most afraid of if I let her come back?
People withdrawing or leaving without explanation. 

8. What would I have to grieve if I actually became her again?
My identity as independent.

9. Who in my life would celebrate her, and who would be threatened by her?
Ben                                Libby
Abi
Jenny
Lachlan
Niko

10. If she walked back in tonight, what's the first thing she'd say?
Tell me everything.

"You didn't misplace yourself. You gave her away in pieces to people who couldn't hold her. The work isn't finding her. It's calling her back."